Book Reviews + Praise
Here’s what people are saying about The Offline Dating Method…
How to get a date AND gain new friends
“Camille Virginia’s book title promises a dating primer for those who have had less than satisfactory experience in the digital world – and does she ever deliver! This thoughtful, beautifully written work is grounded in real-life experiences of the author and others. Readers may very well have ‘Yes, that’s me’ moments among the many awkward and/or unsuccessful dating situations in the book, but Camille follows through with insightful ideas and suggestions. Her empathy for her audience runs throughout the work. There’s more. Not only does the book address dating/romance interests, but concurrently she steers the reader into ways by which they gain new friends. This is a subtle bonus to what is already a terrific work which raises a very high bar in the relationship guide world.”
– Edwina, reader
Loved the simple techniques + action exercises
“My favorite part was the practical exercises that helped me put the tips into action. I especially love the advice on how to be present and look for the good in everyone we encounter. The Catch-Up Cycle of Doom was perfect, I will no longer be trapped by it! I also love the practicality of the Empathic Listening Technique. These are all things I can employ right away. As a pleasant surprise, I learned more about how to connect with, relate to and develop meaningful interactions with anyone, not just men. Brilliant! I also love the insight on bad behaviors we can unconsciously develop. The section on judgement was especially insightful and I plan to practice curiosity, compliments and compassion to break that cycle. It’s a lot of information, but organized very well and easy to navigate. I would recommend this to my girlfriends for dating and personal growth and development. I can’t wait to read the sequels!”
– Shelly, reader
Full of wisdom!
“This book is so full of wisdom! It’s practical, insightful, and just awesome. I especially loved the Dress for Confidence section – wow… Camille really drove it home on the importance of dressing nicely! I think I’ll finally go buy a new pair of shorts now, because none of the shorts I currently have make me look great and consequently don’t’ make me feel great either. Thanks for the push!”
– Allie, client
Real World, Not Digital Social Fun
“I became intrigued with The Offline Dating Method when I observed there are only 3 chapters in the book. And I really appreciated the promise in each one that guaranteed results. As I followed the pattern of Camille Virginia’s actionable blueprint, I realized that many of my what, why, wherefore and how questions about attracting ‘a great guy’ had been anticipated and proven. The core message, examples and activities are based on engaging in meaningful communication that result in fulfilling relationships. I can definitely relate to that. I’m using the bonus Workbook that she has also provided (at no cost) to track my ‘social’ progress tip-by-tip. I felt the guidance was so insightful that I treated a friend to a copy also.”
– J. Solomon, reader
Surprising Insights I Didn’t Expect
“In Chapter 3 Camille Virginia talks about avoiding The Catch-Up Cycle of Doom. Basically, as you start putting yourself out there and using the methods described in this book your calendar is going to fill up. That’s what I expected to learn–but the next part surprised me. She talks about how friends will start calling you out of the blue to ‘catch up’ and vicariously live through you! Suddenly you might find all of your free time being spent on phone calls instead of enjoying your social life. Camille Virginia suggests you guard your time carefully so you spend it how you want to spend it, free from obligations. I love how this book is full of little insights like that one that just grease the wheels for this whole offline dating experience!“
– Shereese A., reader
Richly Informative and Deeply Engaging to Read
“Often, books are filled with ‘fluff’ and you must read half the book before getting to any substantial content. Not so with The Offline Dating Method. Contained within are excellent tips ranging from how to be your authentic self, consistently, using the ‘Ellen Effect;’ how to get over a fear of what to say, using the ‘Mind to Mouth Move;’ or how to more easily remember the name of the cute guy you just had a conversation with. Not only is this book richly informative, it is also deeply engaging to read. I highly recommend you grab a copy of it.“
– Deb B, reader
This could be your life bible
“This book is not only helpful for finding your life partner, but also helps you build a better relationship with anyone (for example, to make friends). As we know, life is all about making connection with people & Camille gives you valuable information in this book to assist you in creating the connection with your potential partner (or anybody). My favorite quote from the book is ‘Make it your mission to learn something from each person, because there is ALWAYS something interesting to discover’.”
– Richard, reader
Not Just for Women!
“Although women are the target audience of this book, I think many men could benefit from it as well. Single men are often told that they should try online dating, but honestly if they read this book instead, they will become better not only at real-life dating but conversational skills in general.
My favorite parts of the book:
1. Recommendation that women do more stuff alone–Women even go to the bathroom together when they are out and hardly separate from their friends, which makes it much less likely they will be approached by men.
2. Ways to be present–Hardly anyone will approach you if you seem glued to your phone.
3. Recommending that women assume any guy who approaches and wants to talk to her is attracted until proven otherwise.
4. The phrases to transition from small talk to a meaningful conversation. It’s very common for people to be good at small talk but not really know how to transition to something deeper.
5. ‘Asked out organically’–A method by which the woman can express interest in an activity, which takes most of the guesswork out of him figuring out what to ask her out for a first date to do.
In summary, I think just about anyone can learn something from this book that will make them better at conversations, both for dating and other purposes, and regardless of their gender.”
– N, reader
If you want to get more dates in real life, read this now!
“As a psychologist who specializes in dating and relationships and someone who just recently got ‘off the market,’ I know personally and professionally how difficult, draining, and emotionally exhausting online dating can be. You feel like the dates are impersonal, go nowhere meaningful, and seldom lead to lasting love. What is different about Camille’s approach, is that it helps you get dates by being yourself. She helps you learn how to feel and express more confidence and social skills that help you strike up conversations with anyone, anywhere (hint: be ready for it to happen in the grocery store, Starbucks and even the gym!). This book is long-overdue and is such a great help to all woman sick of the online dating merry-go-round. If you want to get more dates in real life, read this now!“
– Kristen, reader
Shy no more
“I thought this book was great! Let’s face it, online dating makes things superficial. This book speaks to reality, not just the reality of dating but back to the reality if human connection. Even if you are not looking to date, this book is comforting and offers simple excercises to build confidence. Fear not this book is easy to read and offers little challenges to bring you out of your shell in common everyday social interactions. Kudos to Camille for bringing us back to the real world where we can put down our phones and once again join and enjoy the real people in our lives… and hey if that interaction lands you dinner or coffee, even better.”
– Amazon reader
Small, easy tips to connect with the world
“This book is going to be helpful to so many people. My favorite part was how many small, easy to remember tips were applicable for anyone to use in a way to become more connected with the world around them. I myself am an outgoing guy, but found myself using some of the techniques to expand my brief interactions with strangers: guy on an elevator, woman in line for lunch, etc.”
– John, reader
The tips helped me get asked out at Barnes & Noble!
“This book is a good reminder to women that dating should be fun and the opportunities to meet guys ‘in the wild’ are endless! Camille provides clear, concise examples and actionable tips in order to expand the number of people you interact with everyday. Living in a large city where everyone stares at their phones and appear to be disengaged with the world around them, I’ve enjoyed applying Camille’s tips – and even got asked out at the travel section of Barnes & Noble!“
– Mary, reader
‘How to Win Friends & Influence People’ for the 21st century
“This is a classic in the making! I am impressed by how easily the basic elements of human interaction are explained and put into perspective. Camille’s personal examples generously illustrate her points and motivates you to go out there and try it! I am an Executive Coach by profession and I will recommend my clients read the book. The Offline Dating Method feels like Carnegie’s ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ but transported to the 21st century.”
– Andy, reader
One of the best “how-to” books I’ve ever read
“This book is amazing, one of the best how-to books I’ve ever read – and I’ve read hundreds. Camille’s many suggestions for connecting with others can be used by anyone looking for new friends or relationships. Readers of any age will feel they are sitting down with Camille over lattes and learning about their own situations, with plenty of support and fun in the process. This is a valuable book to keep as a resource, to refer to often for ideas and reassurance that one is not alone in the search.”
– Mathilda, client
A refreshing take on improving social interactions
“Even as a married woman who isn’t dating, I absolutely loved this book. The section about releasing judgment in Chapter 3 was an awakening for me and made me realise ‘wow, there’s another way to think that I’ve never considered!’ and then Camille broke down exactly how to do it. This book is exactly what I needed to read right now. It completely changed my perspective on social interaction and conversations…(and I thought that I was already pretty savvy in that department). Such a great read. A book that I’m sure you can read many times and gain more and more insights each time.”
– Diana Tower, reader
Helpful for connecting with my husband
“Even though I’m 67, and now happily married, this book was perfect for me. I found so many insights on how to increase the quality of my relationships with everyone – including my husband! Camille is very authentic and has a clever, enjoyable sense of humor. She spells the tips out clearly, gives specific examples, and made the book very reader-friendly and interactive. The quotes alone show how much research was put into the book. It was a joy to read, twice!”
– Zelda, reader
A guide for how to get to know strangers
“…a hyper-current artifact of the present – of a time when social-media skills are often conflated with social skills, and when the simple question of what to say out loud to another person can be anxiety-inducing for many. The Offline Dating Method could virtually double as a guide for how to talk to and get to know strangers, full stop.“
– The Atlantic
Brilliant selection of tips – a dating game-changer
“Two words: inspiring and wise. Even those who already consider social skills as one of their superpowers and those who are not burned out from online dating will get a ton of value from this book. What I appreciate the most is that the advice doesn’t just improve social / dating skills, it increases overall quality of life. Things like engaging in volunteering, practicing presence, looking your best every day, keeping your phone in your purse, being kind to people. The selection of tips is brilliant, and I’m confident everyone will learnt at least one new thing from this book – and that one thing can be a dating game-changer. The book is clear, structured, easy to read, and entertaining. In fact, I made a list of lines that put a guilty pleasure grin on my face. I almost physically felt how Camille had to release the safety net to be sincere at some points and most importantly, her replenishing vibe (which I believe is one of her biggest gifts) can be felt throughout the book.”
– Varvara, reader
Unapologetically upbeat with engaging anecdotes
“Virginia’s unapologetically upbeat attitude is a result of overcoming her own debilitating shyness. The Offline Dating Method provides step-by-step methods and engaging anecdotes covering a multitude of social how-to’s. She shares valuable tips for attracting romantic partners and making the most of opportunities to meet people in everyday settings. Much of her advice goes beyond the dating context and applies also to making friends and enlarging one’s social circle.”
– Shelf Awareness
This message resonates with every age, race, and gender
“Excellent! 4 thumbs up! The book was such a fun, entertaining and informative read. I was concerned that as an older (49-year-old) woman of color I wouldn’t be able to relate – but all doubts gone! It was a great read with so much practical information and tips. What I loved most is it’s much more than just attracting a great guy. It’s about becoming your best and most authentic self to attract the best and most authentic people into your life. That message resonates with every age, race, gender or social status. I like the science shared behind our humanness and the inspirational / insightful quotes were very diverse. Brava Camille!”
– Sheila, client
Tips work like magic, even for married men!
“I heard Camille speak on a podcast focused on professional networking. Her breadth of knowledge on how introverts might be holding themselves back was novel, refreshing, and a game-changer. She briefly mentioned a new book she had written, and I went to check it out… not knowing in the slightest that it was focused on single women finding a great match!
I’m a married man in my mid-thirties, with zero aspirations for finding a date. What I really wanted to pick up tips on how to socialize with more confidence. Regardless of the title, I bought the book because of what the knowledge she shared on the podcast. And I could not have been more delighted.
This book has so much useful knowledge for ANYONE who wants to know how to connect more personally with strangers. I’ve already tried incorporating just a couple tips while out in public, and they’ve made a world of difference! It’s almost like magic. Thanks Camille!”
– NK, reader
Even as a happily married woman, I couldn’t put it down
“If I had had this book when I was single, it would have saved me a ton of heartache, confusion, and going after the wrong guys. Due to insecurity, fear of vulnerability, and an inability to connect on a deeper level, I attracted guys (and was attracted to guys) for mostly surface reasons, and not surprisingly, those relationships fizzled out quicker than you can say, ‘Bye, Felicia.’ The Offline Dating Method is a brilliant testament to the power of starting a relationship off in person vs. online. Being able to draw on all of your senses in order to really ‘know’ someone is critical, especially in a day and age when we communicate less than ever. This book is powerful, engaging, and even as a happily married woman, I could not put this down. The lessons I learned can be applied to any interaction with any human. I also loved the reminder to always be curious. People are complex and fascinating, and if you keep your mind open and ask questions and sincerely show interest in others, you will be rewarded with some of the loveliest gifts through connection that you could imagine.”
– Melody, reader
Great for life – not just dating
“If you think about it, we all ‘date’ people all the time. It might be an actual date looking for a partner, or it might be ‘dating’ someone to become roommates or friends. We might ‘date’ to find a good fit for a school or place of worship. Camille shares amazing guidance and insights into how we all can ‘date’ in the real world. Her suggestions and advice on how to meet, talk with, and listen to other people are invaluable.This definitely can apply to anyone looking to meet other people, no matter the context.“
– Katie Payer, reader
SO much more than a dating book!
“The Offline Dating Method is cleverly disguised as a dating book…but it’s actually a witty manifesto on how to master the art of meaningful connection while living in a tech-obsessed culture. Readers will not only get the power to date in the real world, they’ll also live a more fulfilling life.”
– Sonya, client
For smart, single women who are ready for a partner
“This book is right on the mark for smart, single women who are not interested in frivolous relationships – who want a partner and want to expand their social circle. The book is well researched and organized, with a pile of thought put into it. Most importantly it provides answers to how to become more confident and self-aware.”
– Jeff, reader
Transforms your ability to connect with others
“5/5 stars! Camille’s book is LIFE-CHANGING. It transforms your ability to connect with other human beings. Camille shows that kindness still is the currency with which we can use to live a more fulfilling life–of which the most important part is meaningful human connection. And she tells you EXACTLY how to do it–without compromising your self-worth or your values–including how to address every pitfall/problem/pain point that might pop-up along the way.”
– Stephanie, client
I found the love of my life thanks to Camille
“I love this book! Simply put, Camille’s techniques work and I only chose the ones that felt right for me. I hadn’t had a date in many years. I thought I was un-datable as no one ever asked me out. In reality, I got nervous around men that I liked and stayed in the small talk zone, boring myself and probably them. I started thinking of men as potential friends and practiced being my authentic, weird self. It worked. I met a man doing something I love, while being my authentic self. We have been together 2 years and are planning our future. I don’t think it would have happened without Camille.“
– Mary, client
A guide to interactions and self-discovery
“This book is a practical, straightforward guide to human interaction in the real world. I loved how as I read each part, there were concise recommendations that could be immediately applied to my daily routine. Beyond that, it was a guide to self discovery and introspection, encouraging me in a more ‘open’ direction. I will definitely be referencing this text regularly! And gifting copies to friends (single or not!).”
– Ashlee, reader
This material is life-changing!
“This book! So much clarity, this material is life changing! I love how this information can be applied in every culture, as someone who has used the norms of my culture/religion to hinder human connection in the love department. I also love the advice on how to stay true to how you’re feeling; no faking excitement or watering yourself down for someone else. I also loved the tactical advice on how to be present, how to be selective with the company you keep, how to be vulnerable with others, and most of all how to be kind to yourself. The section on ‘assuming the positive’ and asking clarifying questions was an eye-opening reminder that you don’t always know what the other person is thinking – so just ask! This book is a conversation and dating game-changer.“
– Sonya, client
A unique perspective that got me ask-outs
“Camille’s ‘offline dating’ perspective is so unique. She starts with the tiniest step to get you comfortable with strangers by treating everyone as if you’re already friends with them. Then the Empathic Listening Technique where a real connection is the foundation of getting asked out. The exercises help you reflect on the barriers that might be holding you back, which is powerful. I did get ask-outs using Camille’s method. But more importantly, her method helps me have fewer doubts, anxiety, and fears when I show up at parties/events/new gyms by myself.”
– Zenna, client
Loved the meaningful example scripts
“An incredibly insightful book. I especially loved the Empathic Listening Technique, and listening in pictures. That was totally new to me, but it makes everything so much more vivid! I also love the meaningful example scripts, like showing how to ask ‘What’s a personal highlight for you from the past 6 months?’ so I can get into an interesting conversation right off the bat.”
– Margaret, reader
Everyone needs this book
“What I love about this book is that the primary focus is on dating, but all of the tips can be used to foster connections of any kind. The tips are easy to implement and apply to everyday life – like the actual things you do every day. Camille includes subtle mindset shifts you can use to change how you feel about in-person interactions and be confident about being yourself. She includes examples from her own life without being self-deprecating. They are just examples and prove that even when we make mistakes, we can learn from them. When I started reading this book, I realized that I was not the only one out of practice in social situations. Time and again I find myself in groups of people that barely speak to one another. Apparently everyone needs this book! Then maybe they’ll get off their phones and start looking at the people around them – which is exactly what this book is all about. Taking those moments and turning them into connections.”
– Rachel, reader